Answers to this second part can stimulate some useful talk. The kids may discover they don't like or want to be similar to, the example set by TV's Mr. or Ms. Cool who is sarcastic, angry, or critical of others.

Such people may make interesting characters on the tube, but the quick comebacks, put downs, and ridicule of sitcom jokes don't make for close friendships or a warm family life. Parents also need to set a balancing example. No one feels safe when all comments risk ridicule.

Kids can make a better school start for themselves with a few tips from the friendship list. While waiting and hoping to be admired themselves, kids often neglect the other person's yearning for a few kind words. Regardless of his pretensions, even that nasty kid secretly hopes for some positive words.

Tip No. 1: Listen. Make an effort to look at friends when they are talking. You don't want to stare, but if you look away too much, the other person thinks you don't care. Your eyes, reaction, and posture say a lot about how you feel.

Tip No. 2: Find something to like. The art of the subtle compliment is to like something about the other person. Are they funny? Smile a little. Are they smart? Nod a little. Are they interesting? Show interest when they have something to say.

Tip No. 3: Take a little time. It's easy to just "run over" what others say. Everybody's rushed and anxious to get in what they want to say. Slow up and pay some attention.

Everybody needs time, wants to be liked and has a story to tell. Friends need to listen to friends.