Raising Good Kids in Tough Times
by Dr. Roger McIntire
$14.95
Raising Good Kids in Tough Times describes 7 crucial habits to help parents raise good kids, maintain a loving relationship, and counter the dangerous examples, attitudes and temptations children face in today's multimedia world. Practical guidelines are illustrated with over 200 examples and more than 60 parent-child dialogues. This book covers the basics from toilet training, sleeping habits, and listening skills to sibling rivalry, sex, drugs, and social skills. It also addresses single-parent problems and strategies and parent activism in the school and community.
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Parents' Choice calls it a
"1999 Approved Winner"
Parent Council selects it as
"Outstanding"
Foreword Magazine says,
"An unpretentious book structured on seven good parental habits, it is readable, well-organized and full of sensible advice for parents."
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Dr. Roger McIntire, father of three, taught child psychology and principles of family therapy at the University of Maryland for 32 years. Now Professor Emeritus, he is a popular speaker and columnist and a frequent guest on radio and TV talk shows.
CONTENTS
Preface
HABIT 1: LISTEN WELL
The Most Important Question in Parenting: "Mom (Dad), Can We Talk?"
First Rules for Little Talks
Five Cautions for Parents in Conversation
Listening During the Games Instead of Trying to Win
EXERCISE: Practice the First Rules and Five Cautions of Conversation
HABIT 2: TEACH WELL
Stage One: Careful Rules for Toddlers: "Teaching" The Basic Three
Stage Two: The Real Challenges Begin! Attention-Getting Behaviors
Stage Three: The School-age-Helping a Child Become a Student
Strategies for Tests
The Computer Age: The Dangers of a "Computer Crutch"
Problem Students
EXERCISE: Observe What's Happening - Start a Behavior Page
HABIT 3: SHOW THEM YOU LIKE THEM-HELP THEM LIKE THEMSELVES
"I Love You" Is Not Much Without "I Like You"
Ingredients of a Great Parent-Child Relationship
While Pursuing Perfection, What Happens to "Liking?"
"I Always Felt I Was Not Quite Good Enough"
Undesirable Habits by Default
Trophy Children
EXERCISE: Fill In These Important Lists of Priorities
HABIT 4: SEND THE RIGHT MESSAGES ABOUT VALUES AND CHARACTER
Values Learned Through the Family Connections
When Values Come Up: How to Manage Blames and Credits
Routines That Lead to Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem
Character Development Needs Time of Its Own
The S.A.D. Behaviors: Sex, Alcohol, and Drugs
Your Child and the Movies
What Will Make You Happy?
Character, Community, and Religion
"Character? The Subject Never Came Up!
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HABIT 5: MIND YOUR MODEL
Give a Nice Day
What is Good Behavior and Where Can I Get Some?
How Much Explanation is Required for Children?
Necessary Planning about Strategies
HABIT 6: Use Caution With Punishment
You Can't Make a Garden Just By Pulling Weeds!
Uncle Harry's Hard Line Won't Help Tough Times
The Reasons and the Results
Correcting the Course
Punishment Alternatives: Isn't Adulthood Great?!
The Work of Being a Parent
EXERCISE: A Planning Session Agenda
HABIT 7: KEEP YOUR ADULT PERSPECTIVE
Your "Almost Grown-Ups" Need Your Adult Perspective
"Quit Treating Me Like a Child!" 8 Years Old and Going on 25!
Bring In the Reinforcements
"Hey! Don't Talk to Your Mother Like That!" How Friends Can Help
Parent Abuse: How Friends Can Hinder
Parent Teams Can Help You Keep Up With the Changes
The Rest of Their Childhood and Your Parenthood Begins Now
EXERCISE: Parent Teams: The Ground Rules for Making Them Work
Index
Extra Behavior Charts
